Dear E. Jean: Three weeks ago, I got a very short pixie cut. It didn’t turn out well. It was not empowering. I was struggling to feel beautiful when I went out with a guy who told me, “If you had long hair, you would be too hot for me.” I know it was a stupid comment, but it completely broke me. Now I feel really unattractive because of my hair. What can I do to gain confidence while my cut grows out?—I Hate My Hair!
Miss Hate, My Heliotrope: No one is more moved by your hair disaster than I am, particularly since I was recently flattened by a cruel autoimmune disorder and lost every hair on my head. I’m now 100 percent cured, and my hair is growing back. It’s about an inch long now. I know people say women with buzz cuts are bold, brave, badass, edgy, untamed, sylphlike, nymphlike, Jean Seberg–ish, and Michelle Williams–ish. Not me. I look like Caligula driving a chariot in a high wind. So you know where I’m getting my confidence? Earrings! Long, flashing, dangling, Edie Sedgwickian stunners. And since confidence comes from feeling good, and since feeling good comes from looking good, I have a bunch of insane wigs, which never stay on my head because people always want to try them on and pretend they’re RuPaul. Give me your address and I’ll send you one, though by the time it arrives, you’ll have another three- fourths of an inch and be gorgeous!
This article originally appeared in the April 2019 issue of ELLE.